Saturday, January 20, 2007

We hope it's going to be a girl...

People have been telling me over and over again that no two pregnancies are the same, and I can’t agree more. In my case – the first and second pregnancies are a lot different, so much so that I hope the gender will be different too this time…

Alhamdulillah, the vomiting stopped after the 4th month – a big change from last time because with Huzaifah, I was vomiting almost throughout the whole 9 months, including the morning I delivered him. I don’t get tired that easily too now, which is good, because I do need my energy to keep up with Huzaifah.


However, now I am experiencing other previously-not-experienced pregnancy related pains - leg cramps (which could really hurt, especially in the middle of a winter night on a futon) and constipation. Tried stretching before bed and taking more calcium (drinking more milk, eating more yogurt) to overcome the cramp thingy – but doesn’t seem to work all that well. I drink plenty of water regularly, and eat prunes to overcome the constipation problem - again, with not much difference. Currently I am consuming lots of green tea, just to see if it will make any difference…

I also sometimes feel guilty – to Huzaifah because he’s getting an adik even before his second birthday, and to the adik, because I am not taking the same care with this pregnancy like I did with the first. With Huzaifah, I used to read more Quran (now I just listen to Quran recital on the PC occasionally), drank plenty of soya milk and bird’s nest (not much soya and no bird's nest this time around, in fact I even drink kopi kampung sometimes - not good, not good), took my prenatal vitamin religiously (stopped taking folic acid after 4th month this time) and communicated daily with him (now I only ask adik to stop moving around so much when I am trying to get some sleep). And apart from some bodysuits on sale in Gap, I haven’t bought anything new for the adik. I am counting on Mak to bring Huzaifah’s old stuff from home when she comes here in March, but Mak also have asked me to buy some new stuff. Baby stuff are not cheap – even more so in Japan where nothing is cheap.

Now that I have to take care of Huzaifah, with his never ending unexpected stunts (the oven is sealed because he kept climbing the oven to get to pans and pots on the stove, the chairs are located not at the dining table because he kept climbing the table using the chair as a ladder of some sort, a lot of dinner wares had been transferred to the mosque’s kitchen since he kept rummaging through the lower cabinets and took out glass wares to play with them), I feel like I am a bit emotionally distant from this pregnancy. Hubby too, seems to take less interest in this pregnancy – probably because he too is drained with taking care of Huzaifah.

Not that I love this yet unborn adik any less. It’s just – different. But I hope it’s going to be a girl. And if the old wives’ tales are to be believed – there are plenty of signs that it’s going to be a girl…

The signs?

I am carrying high – it’s still unnoticed to some although I will be entering my seventh month next week.

Hubby is not gaining weight along with me.

I am craving sweets – not just ice cream and cheesecake, but also chocolate, and I am normally not a chocolate person (more an ‘asam’ person actually)

I crave for fruits too – persimmons, strawberries, pears

I don’t get headaches

My nose doesn’t change its shape

My chest development is pretty dramatic

My belly resembles a watermelon more than a basketball

Plus, Huzaifah loves playing in the kitchen and with kitchen wares. He is happiest when he’s allowed to play with ladles although he has a trunk full of toys suitable for his age. Sabah confessed that his mom told him that he used to love playing in the kitchen and with kitchen utensils when he was a toddler – and he got a baby sister…

Not to mention just a few days ago, I craved to read chick lit. Maybe I was influenced by Kit, maybe it was the “50% off chick lit” signboard that was put outside my favorite used bookstore, or maybe it was just my raging hormones – I bought not one, but three Shopaholic books in one go (for less than 1000 yen). I have heard about the Shopaholic series 2 or 3 years ago from Afaf, a colleague at work, but never tried buying, borrowing or reading it until now. And being more of a Sheldon/Koontz/Grisham/Archer/Dan Brown reader – yes, chick lit is not my usual cup of tea… So, what else but girly hormones that would drive me to buy chick lit, huh?

Oh, by the by, another reason why hubby and I hope for a girl is that so we can put all those dresses, girly bodysuits, tops, pants, shoes, socks and what-nots bought in 2005 (when we thought our first born was going to be a girl) to good use…

Happy Maal Hijrah, Congratulations and Condolence

Why when you know you should be concentrating on writing at least one of the four term papers that are due, you just have this voice at the back of your mind nagging you to update your blog. It’s not like you update your blog regularly after all, but the voice just wouldn’t stop – so there…

Happy Maal Hijrah 1428. Hope this year is going to be a good one. I don’t have any new year resolutions – I think the last time I made up some was when I was in high school. I guess I’m one of those who make up new resolutions when we feel like we could commit to it, regardless of the beginning period.

Hubby led the recital of doa akhir/awal tahun in Rusdi’s place in Ichikawa Ono yesterday with a small potluck feast after Isyak. (I didn’t bring anything, and was quite embarrassed to note that even 9-month pregnant Kak Mai, Pokcik’s wife who is due to deliver anytime now, contributed some pudding.) I especially enjoyed the pulut prepared by Nor, Syah’s wife with the spicy sambal, the apam (with anonymous contributor) and the mee goreng prepared by Siti, the hostess. We seldom get to go to Hijriah new year party in Malaysia because most people read the doa akhir/awal tahun privately at home or at the mosque – so I kinda enjoyed the opportunity to attend one such party here, even though I was the only female guest (it was an all-male small kenduri actually, but hubby took Huzaifah and I along just so that I could recite the doa together with him)

Oh, by the way, I would like to offer my belated congratulations to newlywed Roza & Meor - and thanks Ahkak for sharing the wedding photos at your blog. I am sure, what with Meor being a photographer himself, they must have loads of gorgeous wedding photos, but even normal photos were enough to prove how radiant Roza looked on her big day. I am happy for her – I will always be indebted to her for being the one who helped telling someone (rather nicely) to stop bugging me a few years back. Roza, Ahkak and Ira were also the one who acted as my make-up artists on my wedding, and I could never thank them enough for being there for me…

I take this opportunity to also congratulate Jehan and Mariam-san – (the fifth actually, but) the first couple to be wedded by hubby this year in Asakusa. The bride shed a few tears when she uttered the shahadah. They didn’t bring any witnesses along, but alhamdulillah the mosque at that particular time was used by a group of Indonesians for some religious meet, so 4 kind guys had agreed to act as the witnesses – 2 for Mariam-san’s shahadah ceremony, and another 2 for the wedding.

On a more sober note, my condolences go out to Shireen – the same one I’ve mentioned in two recent entries - who had just lost her dear dad 2 days before Eidul Adha. I didn’t know about it until a few days ago when she replied my e-mail, thanking me for sending her (long due) photos taken in Tokyo. I remember thinking what a nice daughter she is as I accompanied her buying souvenirs for her parents – a lovely ‘beg surau’ for her mother and a cool jacket from UniQlo for her father. I am not sure whether or not her dad had a chance to wear the jacket, because Shireen even missed Roza’s wedding because of her father’s critical condition (due to cancer). Poor girl is still trying to cope with the loss, missing her daddy so much… My prayers are with her and her family – and Al-fatihah for her dad…

Wednesday, January 17, 2007

This one is for you Kakaq

Dear Kakaq,

You asked for some photos, so, here they are...


This was taken during Eidul Adha in the TYT Dato' Duta's residence as he was introduced to hubby by your 'Abang Jas'.


This shot of Sabah - who helped a lot with taking care of Huzaifah last Eidul Adha - was taken in Encik Jasri's residence, with Encik Jasri at the back, offering hubby (the photographer) more mee kari...

Oh, this was the Raya family shot that came out okay last Eidul Adha, taken in the Malaysian Embassy


A six-month pregnant mommy feeding a 1-year-and-4-months old toddler home-made nasi goreng in Yamashita Park, Yokohama

Another recent shot (taken on 8th January 2007) of that six-month pregnant mommy with her eldest son in Yamashita Park.

Tuesday, January 16, 2007

Youkoso Nihon e

Shireen was on an official trip to Tokyo last November – took 2 days leave, stayed at a friend’s place and came to see me a day before she went back home. She’d been in Asakusa before, so I didn’t get to be much of a tourist guide. I brought her to our house though, insisted on it in fact, because I’d cooked some ayam masak merah with acar just for her. After more than a week of eating Japanese food, Shireen seemed to really appreciate Malaysian food. And she got to meet Huzaifah in person too.

Fee Cheng visited Tokyo last month – not on any working trip, but strictly for holiday. She used up her Enrich points to get free MAS ticket to Tokyo and stayed with her ex-room-mate in UM, a Japanese-Chinese who’s now married to a Japanese and has decided to make Japan her home. Fee Cheng’s friend arranged quite a schedule for her while she’s in Tokyo, so she had to arrange to meet me a few days before we actually met.

It was good meeting the girls and having girl talk just like the old days. We used to work in the same ministry back in KL, but since then Shireen has been promoted and got a transfer to another ministry while Fee Cheng is currently on study leave. She decided that she needed a break from the working atmosphere and now is pursuing her (second) Masters degree in UM.

Sharing some interest in Japan, both Fee Cheng and I applied for Mambusho scholarship when we were in the same office. We used to have breakfast and lunch together all the time, including treating ourselves to Japanese cuisine once in a while. Sometimes, we even watched Japanese drama together (using PC/laptop) during long lunch break on Fridays. It’s been long since we last met though – “masa last kita jumpa, you belum kahwin pun, sekarang dah nak masuk anak dua dah,” was how Fee Cheng described it.

Hubby was sporting enough to bring Huzaifah to Kaminarimon just so Fee Cheng got to meet him in person and took some photos together. And then he left Fee Cheng and I for some girlfriends time, taking Huzaifah with him back home.

I got to be more of a tourist guide for Fee Cheng since she didn’t get to roam as much as she wanted the first time she came to Asakusa. Assisted her in buying some rice crackers (senbei) and Japanese candy, and then treated her for a tempura snack in Tenya.

Tenya, being a chain restaurant is a far cry from the likes of Kiku Zakura or Spring Hatsuhana where we used to dine in KL. Fee Cheng did not complain, but I apologized anyway for not taking her to a nicer restaurant. Anyway, the tempura in Tenya was as delicious as always, and what mattered more was that we finally got to eat tempura together in Tokyo, and that’s something we used to dream about a couple of years ago. Of course, the restaurant in our dream was a finer one – with dimmer lights, cosier chairs, top-quality ceramic dishes, and better ambience. But Tenya was all I could afford – and thankfully, Fee Cheng didn’t mind one bit (partly I think, because she got to enjoy the finer restaurant anyway whenever she dined out with her yuppie friend, who seldom eats at home).

Fee Cheng said at first she was unsure whether or not to let me know that she would be coming – and I immediately told her that if I were to learn later that she had been visiting Tokyo without my knowledge, I would be very upset and she would never hear the end of it, ever. Fee Cheng said she thought so too, that was why she made it a point to meet up with me while she’s in Tokyo. Heheheh…

Today, I just learned that yet another friend will be coming for a short course in Tokyo. Amy and I were quite close back during our DPA days and I couldn’t wait to meet up with her (if possible). From our exchange over Yahoo Messenger, she seemed rather anxious although excited about this coming trip. It will be her first encounter with winter – and she’s far from keen to experience freezing temperature. But then again, there’s always a first time for everything, kan?

Friday, January 12, 2007

Solat, jangan tak solat

It is interesting to note that both Shireen and Fee Cheng - the former visited me in November while the latter in late December - queried me about it; where do I pray when I go out?

Solat time changes frequently here – in accordance with the season changes, that sometimes it is just not possible to perform all five required solat at home. Asar currently begins at around 2.30 p.m., but will begin from around 3.30 p.m. in late May. Maghrib’s beginning time ranges from 4.30 p.m. in winter to 7.00 p.m. in summer.

I must confess that while I am not the most disciplined of all to perform my solat immediately with the arrival of its time (I have my share of subuh gajah or subuh dinaosaur more than I care to admit), I do try my best not to miss performing them on their prescribed time no matter where I go. And since Tokyo is not like Kuala Lumpur where most malls and public areas have surau facilities, one must be rather creative in finding a suitable place, preferably a rather quiet and peaceful place.

It’s not like I am ashamed of performing my solat in public – I don’t care if anybody stare while I stand, bow, sit flat or prostrate, it is just that somehow it is easier to concentrate on communicating with Allah in a quieter place.

So, where do I perform my solat when I go out? In GSAPS, Muslim students normally pray at the end corner of the 8th floor which has little chances of being disrupted by casual onlookers. When we go out, hubby and I normally bring a qiblah compass along. And we have prayed at various places – from performing ‘solat hormat waktu’ in trains, to praying properly in public parks, near staircases in various train stations and shopping malls, at the back of Muslim-owned shops, in Muslim-owned restaurant’s kitchen, in storeroom, near parking areas, in nursing rooms… I never use telekung when I pray outside – I pray with whatever clothing I had on, sometimes adding a ‘hand stocking’ when my sleeves are a bit short, so it’s compulsory to wear what is acceptable for prayers when I go out (suitable tudung, socks with no holes, long blouse/sweater, loose skirt/pants, etc) My similar experience of finding suitable place for solat in UK helps too – because some basic stuff remains (it’s usually quieter at the top floor, the end corner, and the back staircase)

I usually make use of the larger toilets normally reserved for handicapped and mommies with baby to perform ablution because it’s easier to do so in these toilets. Besides, since it’s spacious enough to bring Huzaifah’s baby car inside the toilet, it saves us from having to take turn looking afer him when both hubby and I need to perform ablution.

There are certain people I know who prefer to qadha’ their solat later at home rather than performing it anywhere else when it’s not convenient for them to do so. I normally would remind the person – unsolicited, but I did it anyway out of my responsibility as a fellow Muslim – how important it is to tame our ego in order to serve Allah. If we only pray when we like to pray, where we prefer to pray, then we are still serving our ego since our convenience and comfort should not be the consideration in our solat. It is compulsory for us to pray – at prescribed times in a prescribed manner - and the only consideration is our total submission to Allah.

Sometimes, non-Muslim friends and colleagues ask – why 5 times a day? To simply say ‘because Allah asks us to’, usually wouldn’t satisfy them, so sometimes it is easier to tell them that in the morning we wake up to thank Allah for waking us up and giving us another day to live and the rest of the day to continue saying thanks and being mindful of His presence. After all, Allah has only order 5 prayers - a few minutes out of 24 hours that we have been given daily. So, really, it is not asking for much considering He has given us life, our health, families, our rezeki and countless other bounties, ye tak?

Tuesday, January 02, 2007

Eidul Adha 1427H

About a month before Eidul Adha, hubby checked with the president of ICOJ if he can be released for one day on Eidul Adha since he had been invited to lead the solat sunat raya in the Malaysian Embassy. The president told us that it would be rather tough to find a substitute imam since many Pakistanis are going for hajj or spend their year-end holidays in Pakistan. The president himself would be spending his Eid in Pakistan with his family, and so hubby has to liaise with Brother Jamil.

As it turned out, one Syeikh Al-Hafiz happens to be on a short visit during Eid season, so Brother Jamil arranged for him to be the imam in Asakusa for Eidul Adha. But his visit was only confirmed on Thursday, 3 days before Eid itself. Nevertheless, hubby was so glad that he doesn’t have to perform solat sunat raya in according to Hanafi, and that he could deliver the sermon in Bahasa Melayu.

The sermon text faxed to us by the embassy was almost 20 pages long. “It’s too long, please make it shorter,” advised Encik Jasri, the current student Counsellor. It wasn’t just too long, it was also too wordy yet the content was rather uninspiring. “Find some points which the audience could relate to – and the audience would be mostly students and officers,” I commented after reading the sermon.

He worked hard on summarizing and improving the text – constantly reworded, revised and made changes here and there. He finally cut it down to just 9 pages – with some new inputs, thanks to Mak. Mak was in the Ministry of Education for over 20 years plus she is now an active member of the mosque’s organizing committee back home – just the right person to consult on a short notice.

Mak’s main points were – 1) we must be willing to sacrifice for R&D although the payback is not immediate, in order to become the leader and not merely adopting and adapting because by doing so we will forever be a follower and 2) in spite of being the leader in any field, what we must focus more is on increasing our iman, because it takes more than just being master of technologies to make us great leaders. Too many Malaysians are infected by ‘sindrom selesa’ – feeling so content and comfortable with what we already have that we do not pursue to do more. That’s why some of us, if not all, need to ‘sacrifice’ more time and effort to come up with research results that can enable Malaysia to become leaders. The payback would not be immediate – it takes a lot of time and effort to come out with such result, and it may take decades for returns in monetary terms, but it is something that someone must be willing to sacrifice for…

Unfortunately, I am not sure how many of the jemaah paid close attention to the sermon – the only time the praying hall was really quiet was when hubby read the final doa during the second sermon. Still at least we tried to make the sermon relevant to the audience – I’ve heard of many complaints about sermons which drive people to sleep easily, that’s why we tried to ensure that hubby’s is one that the audience (or at least those who pay attention among the audience) can relate to.

The good thing about hubby being invited to become the imam for Eid prayer meant that we were fetched by the Embassy’s car. We have both met the chauffeur, Hasegawa-san when we ‘tumpang’ the Embassy car last Eidul Fitri since the imam back then happens to be hubby’s friend in Al-Azhar. The drive from Asakusa to Shibuya took only about 20-25 minutes, so by 8.15 we had reached the Embassy – otherwise a one-hour journey, if we were to take the train and bus on our own. Hasegawa-san too was a pleasant driver (despite having to work on his day off – not to mention that New Year is a really important event for most Japanese), attending to our requests and answering our questions courteously.

The Embassy is the place one can count on meeting acquaintances and making new friends – and this time was no exception. Two encounters that stood out from the rest was meeting another blogger who heard about me from an outstanding blogger in Okinawa and a silent reader of this blog who happens to be a friend of two other friends of mine. Kak Hani and Ida, it was nice meeting you ;-).

I didn’t cook any rendang this time, hoping to have some at the Embassy – zannen deshita. No rendang to be found at the Embassy either – instead we were treated to rice with kari dalca, fried chicken and jelatah timun-nenas. The attendees were more then the staff anticipated, so they had to cook a lot of extra while people were lining up. Some complaint of being served such a small portion – but then again, the volunteers who helped serving had not much choice when they had a serious shortage in food, especially rice. They initially cooked 12 large pots (kawah) of rice, but halfway through, they had to cook additional 4 pots (kawah). Kesian the volunteers – mostly undergraduate students or teachers undergoing Nihongo training.

Hubby and I managed to avoid lining up because right after the solat, Encik Jasri invited us to one of the officer’s room and asked one of the volunteers to prepare two plates of nasi for us. Encik Jasri himself did not eat with us, instead he continued monitoring the ongoing activities in the main hall. Poor Encik Jasri – it’s not easy being a student Counsellor, especially when a feast had to be held on the day all the Japanese staff in the Embassy were on their year-end/new year holidays.

We took the opportunity to take a sneak peek of the Ambassador’s residence. The current Ambassador, Dato’ Radzi is a friendly Penangite with an equally friendly Datin as his wife. So friendly they are that for the first time, students are allowed to enter their residence during Raya. In fact, last Eidul Fitri, Dato’ Radzi himself gave a tour of his residence to the students. This time around, hubby had quite a long chat with Dato’ while I had a short chat with Datin, who seemed to be impressed on learning that there is a Malaysian who becomes an Imam in Tokyo. “You must arrange for us to go for a visit there,” she asked one of the staff nearby. “The next time someone visits from Malaysia, I can show them the mosque led by a Malaysian – that would be something different from the same old, same old…” I welcomed her to visit us anytime, but also warned her that Asakusa mosque is not quite ‘proper’ like the Tokyo Camii or most mosques in Malaysia.

Encik Jasri did not held any open house session this raya. His wife, Kak Linda is seven-month pregnant, so that is perfectly understandable. They still organized a makan-makan session for the volunteers who helped serving and cooking though – so they invited hubby and I over as well. Kak Linda prepared mee kari – spaghetti kari actually, but she added turmeric while boiling the spaghetti so it resembled the mee kuning. We exchanged some mommies talk in the kitchen. She is just as friendly as Encik Jasri, so I found it easy chatting with her. Besides, preggie mommies usually could find a lot to share – and this time, I ended up promising to fax some zikir for preggie mommy since she is worried about her placenta praevia condition. (uri di bawah) and since every little effort counts, so she would like to start reciting the zikir too.

We left Encik Jasri’s residence at around 4.00 p.m. Instead of heading back to Asakusa, we asked Hasegawa-san to send us to the nearest Tozai line station, which happened to be Iidabashi. We thanked him profusely for working on the day he was supposed to be on leave and we sent our best to his wife and family in Yokohama. Such is the professionalism of the Japanese, Hasegawa-san kept smiling and being courteous to the very end – no ‘tarik muka’ episode like could be expected from a typical Malaysian driver who has to work on his day off.

Ridzuan joined us on our ‘beraya’ excursion to our friend Syahril’s place in Myoden. It turned out to be a ‘jejak kasih’ episode for them since Ridzuan and Syahril used to live in the same house about 8 years ago. We spent over 4 hours at Syahril’s place – what with Ridzuan obviously enjoyed sharing his thoughts with the juniors who visited while hubby had a discussion on the world affairs (Saddam’s hanging) with the more adult guests (government officers on study leave).

We finally reached home at around 11.00 p.m. Exhausted – but all in all it was a nice Raya although there was no rendang and we were not clad in matching color costumes (hubby and Huzaifah in purple baju Melayu, me in turquoise maternity dress with grey cardigan).

Anyway, if it is not too late – Eid Mubarak and Happy New Year.

Sunday, December 31, 2006

The Cold Stone Experience

Faizly has been telling me about this unique ice cream shop in Roppongi. “Best kak… Tak mahal pun, 500 yen je… Baik akak try” He personally suggested one ice cream with peanut butter mix-in, which appears on the page in which Cold Stone Creamery describes its’ “creations” (as against ‘flavors’).

Ok, what makes Cold Stone different from Haagen Daaz or Baskin Robbins is that one gets to mix and match different flavors into their order. Instead of toppings, they have mix-ins, because the additional flavors are blended in the ice cream instead of being a last minute topping.

So, last Friday, Ridzuan, hubby and I went to Roppongi Hills after Asar to try the ice cream at the Cold Stone Creamery. I had done some homework, so we went there prepared with the list of ingredients for our own crazy creations for hubby and I. However, upon reaching there, we found out that the ice cream selection in a Japanese outlet (currently they have 8 shops, of which 4 are in Tokyo area) is not as vast as in their USA counterpart. I was quite disappointed to note that no Bubble Gum, Cotton Candy or Cake Batter flavors were on the display, and even the mix-ins selection too is a tad limited. I guess it must be due to trying to cater to Japanese’s rather bland taste bud. Japanese like delicate flavors and flavors that blend well together; nothing too sweet, yet fresh and fruity. That explains why Strawberry Shortcake Serenade (sweet cream ice cream, strawberries, yellow cake and whipped cream) and Berry, Berry, Berry Good (sweet cream ice cream, strawberries, raspberries, blue berries) are popular here

Since I was given the task to do the ordering (because neither hubby nor Ridzuan wanted to stand in the long queue in the freezing weather), I decided to just add-in a little bit on their Original Creations – cute, creative and yummy-sounding names with matching taste, if you ask me. Ridzuan asked for Chocolate Devotion (chocolate ice cream, chocolate brownies, chocolate chips, and chocolate fudge) added with roasted almond. I chose Cheesecake Fantasy (cheesecake ice cream, strawberries, blue berries, Graham’s pie crust) added with raspberries and pistachio nuts for myself. Since they don’t offer Candy Land (cake batter ice cream, M&Ms, Snickers, Kit-kat), I finally settled on ordering Mint Mint Chocolate Chocolate Chip (mint ice cream, chocolate chips, brownie, fudge) added with M&M’s, Kit-kat and whipped cream for hubby.

The creations come in three different sizes -"Like It" (Small), "Love It" (Medium), and "Gotta Have It" (Really huge portion). I chose to pay additional 50 yen for the fresh-from-the-oven waffle bowls. The waffle cones and bowls could come plain or dipped in chocolate syrup, and I chose the latter.

Watching the crew prepared the ice cream was an experience not to be missed. The crew scoop out the ice cream with two scoops, put the ice cream on a flat granite counter (which immediately reminded me of the flat pan we use to make okonomiyaki or murtabak) to keep the ice cream from melting, then all the different mix-ins are added and blended together. It’s almost like watching somebody making rojak minus the mixing bowl. Finally, the mixed Creations are served in either regular Styrofoam cups or waffle cones and bowls.

Faizly did not experience this – but while waiting for my order, the whole crew sang the store theme songs. I later found out that they will also sing songs if a customer leave some tips in the tip jar at the cashier point – which could annoy some customers, but I found it kind of cute albeit a bit quirky.

I was surprised to note that the line had only grown longer as I returned to our seats – mostly made up of Japanese girls and gaijin. A girl handed out mini fleece blankets for us to warm our legs just before we started devouring our ice cream. The completed Creation looks very luxurious and delicious. The texture of the ice cream is very creamy and rich, and slightly to the lighter side, perfect for blending the additional mix-ins’ taste.

My Cheesecake Fantasy

I simply loved the Cheesecake Fantasy. It’s because I can choose between having strawberry cheesecake, blue berry cheesecake or raspberry cheesecake alternatively as I chose how to spoon my ice cream. The ice cream itself was to die for – it tastes better than Haagen Daaz’s cheesecake and I thought that was already awesome.

Hubby's Mint Mint Chocolate Chocolate Chip

Hubby’s Mint Mint Chocolate Chocolate Chip was not too bad – but he said it might taste better if I added in some nuts – macadamia, pecan, almond or pistachio – or Graham’s pie crust to balance the sweetness. I thought it was already good though – maybe it became a tad too sweet due to the additional M&M’s and Kit-kat (which hubby is fond of).

Ridzuan's half-eaten Chocolate Devotion

Chocolate Devotion however is strictly for chocolate lovers. I found it to be a bit overwhelming in taste. Even Ridzuan who is a self-professed chocolate lover could not finish his due to its over-chocolatey taste and size. But then again, hubby too did not manage to finish his, so I guess it’s recommended for the guys to go for the small size instead of medium. Leave the medium ones for girls and don’t even contemplate having a large order…

Huzaifah nibbling on the chocolate-dipped waffle

The price is slightly expensive (over 2000 yen for three medium-size servings), but it could be a great treat once in a while. Already we are contemplating a return trip – probably when Ridzuan’s wife arrive in Japan. She’s still in Malaysia and would be joining Ridzuan sometime in early 2007. The atmosphere is nice, the ice cream simply delicious, with friendly crews. Just hope that the queue is not that long – or else it could be quite frustrating to wait since the longer the queue is the less chance of you wanting a tasting spree before ordering so that you don’t infuriate other waiting customers.

Unfortunately, there is no Cold Stone Creamery outlet yet in Malaysia – but chances are they will expand there someday. When the time comes, go grab one dish and taste it for yourself.

Tuesday, December 12, 2006

Hijab only makes her faster...

Here’s to salute Ruqaya Al-Ghasara for showing the world that a Muslim woman, in hijab and full-body suit, can win a gold medal in a 200m race in the Asian Games without donning body-fitting and skimpy outfit.

And we thank her too for the short display of sujud syukur and raising her hands for a quick ‘doa.

She was reported as saying that the feeling was incredible. Yeah, just watching her winning amidst all those runners in ‘seluar spender' as hubby called it - we felt that way too…

Passing it on...

I must say that hubby and I are very much indebted to Ridzuan - who has been acting as our courier man twice already, bringing us packages from Malaysia. When asked what we can do as a way to repay his kindness (apart from treating him out at Deniz in Takadanobaba, our favourite Turkish restaurant), he quickly replied that no, he doesn't expect anything in return, that it has been his pleasure to be of help. “Friends used to help bringing packages for me when I was a student myself. Since I can’t repay them, why shouldn’t I carry on the gestures to others?” This – from somebody we never met in person when he first offered (by e-mail) to bring some stuff for us from KL to Tokyo.

His words reminded me of what Mak used to tell me – whenever possible, try to help others and don’t expect anything in return, because when you sincerely help others, Allah will help you in ways you never expected. It might not happen immediately, it might not happen soon – it often happens when you most need it and least expect it. And like Ridzuan said, when you have been the recipient of an act of kindness and you can’t repay the person who has been helpful to you, you might as well pass it on to others.

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Talking about acts of kindness reminds me of Kak Liza and Abang Bad – or maybe I should address him as Dr Badrol since he had already gotten his PhD and now a professor in UTP, Tronoh – who took me in their home one summer holiday a long time ago. I flunked some papers and had to re-sit some exams, and since the exams were held during vacation, I had nowhere to live because my dormitory was not yet opened.

Kak Liza welcomed me to stay at their home for the two weeks course, not asking for a single penny in rental or utilities. She even asked me to join her little family (there were Kak Liza, Abang Bad, little Iqbal and his sister Aula – but I’m quite sure the family has expanded since then) during meals. She always asked me if I wanted anything to eat or drink, and checking to make sure that I was comfortable. She didn’t allow me to do much housework, “Go study, it’s more important for you to pass the papers. Just leave the houseworks for me, no big deal”, she would have said. I didn’t want to impose but I also didn’t want to offend her by paying when she has implied that she did not expect me to do so. So, sometimes I bought cakes and some food for her kids – which of course, was nothing compared to what Kak Liza and Abang Bad must had spent on me. The accommodation, the utilities I consumed, the food I ate…

So, when a friend recently asked if he could bunk in at the mosque for maybe a couple of weeks before he leaves Tokyo next spring – I gladly told him that he’s welcomed anytime. It won’t be as comfortable as his current place, and he would probably has less privacy, but if it’s alright by him, then, by all means, he's most welcomed. I probably won’t be as hospitable as Kak Liza, but I guess it might be a chance of some sort for me to pass Kak Liza’s and Abang Bad’s kindness on to someone else…

Tuesday, December 05, 2006

Ni nen me no kinenbi

“Kakak ni nanti kahwin dengan orang yang berkaitan…” an old friend of my mom once remarked a few years before I was married. Not that I ever believe in superstitious stuff, but the word “berkaitan” rather perplexed me.

“Berkaitan macam mana Tok?”, I asked for further clarification. After all, at that time I was having a huge crush on a fellow DPA course mate – and surely belonging to the same institute at the same time could be considered “berkaitan”, right?

“Isy, susah aar Tok nak cakap, tapi pusing lagu mana pun, orang ni berkaitan la..”

Fast forward a couple of years later – and hey, what do you know – hubby turned out to be definitely “berkaitan” –
his “kaitan” with Ayah’s ustaz who first introduced him to us;
the “kaitan” through his uncle who has been our family friend for ages, who had in fact once helped Ayah and his brother pay some bank loan by mortgaging one of his properties;
the “kaitan” through his elder sister and younger brother who used to be my seniors in school;
his “kaitan” with my biological mother, sharing same old ancestors from Pattani.

After two years of being married, here’s hoping that our “kaitan” will only be strengthened for many more years to come…

* This is the first time we celebrated our anniversary together since last year I was in Tokyo while he was still in Malaysia. After remaining undecided between going to Takao for momiji or visiting the Sea World Park in Kasai for quite some time, we ended up actually spending the day playing tourist in Tokyo. Just paying 710 yen each for Tokyo Metro one-day ticket, we
- enjoyed momiji in Shinjuku Gyoen,
- played with yellow gingko leaves in Yoyogi/Meiji Jingu Koen,
- watched swans gracefully swimming as well as enjoying nice fountains near Imperial Palace,
- went up Sunshine 60 building as well as went gaga over a lot of stuff in Toyota showroom in Ikebukuro,
- prayed in Otsuka Mosque,
- sampled miniatures of different cakes/tarts and took a closer inspection of the latest Skyline model in the Nissan showroom in Ginza, and
- dined in our favourite Turkish retaurant which served halal food in Takadanobaba.

Oh my, it was indeed a very long day - but with the really sunny weather, not too cold temperature and Huzaifah seemingly enjoying the day thoroughly too, it was quite a memorable anniversary, alhamdulillah...

Thursday, November 30, 2006

You know that you are sekufu'...

... when you got a huge teddy bear as a birthday gift;
and he got this (on his request) for an (early) anniversary gift...

* He started working on the model immediately after we arrived home and spent 6 straight hours to finish it...

Thursday, November 16, 2006

Seriously, I am four months pregnant...

Alhamdulillah, my current morning sickness is limited to just one session every morning – a vast improvement compared to when I was pregnant with Huzaifah because back then it was repeated journeys to the toilet a few times a day everyday until the very morning I gave birth.

I have better tolerance towards smells too. I can now menumis – a big no-no last few months. Tried cooking rendang as requested by hubby last week. The trial went so well that I also cooked kuah lodeh that day – my first time cooking both rendang and kuah lodeh this Syawal. No nasi himpit though – too lazy to boil the instant packets that we brought from Malaysia.

I still don’t look 4 months pregnant – or so I have been told by everybody. In fact, during Open Houses (at friends’ places) some have commented that I look as if I had lost some weight. At school, most colleagues were shocked when they learned that I am four months pregnant. They say that I look tired, but I don’t look pregnant, which reminded me of a comment I got when I was 5 months pregnant with Huzaifah – ‘perut takdo, hongehnyo ado...’ The pale “tired look” could possibly be due to low blood pressure and low quantity of hemoglobin in the blood.

Yes, I’m a bit anemic, but nothing to worry about. That’s what the old and frail male gynecologist I went to see for my first checkup in Tokyo told me. Old and frail suited him well, I kid you not, since his hair is all white, he has even lost some of his front teeth and walk slowly. He cannot speak English, but his wife, also a doctor but not an O&G expert, could to some extent. So we conversed in a mix of Nihongo and English. The place I went is just a small clinic – so they are going to give me a letter of introduction to a bigger hospital for further checkup and delivery after my 20 weeks checkup. Hubby and I have set our sight on Joshie Ii Dai Byoin in Arakawa-ku as the place to give birth since it’s a Women Medical University Hospital, so chances are better of securing a lady doctor there compared to Bokutoh Hospital, a Tokyo government hospital in Sumida-ku.

The truth is I don’t really mind not looking pregnant yet most of the time – it’s only when I board the train that I wish strangers can tell that I’m pregnant so that nobody won’t think I’m wrongfully hogging the special seats reserved for the elderly, handicapped, pregnant mommies and parents with small children. I used to put a small pin-up button reading ‘Onaka ni akachan ga imasu’ (There’s a baby in my tummy) featuring a picture of mommy and baby on my school bag – but it became faulty, so I could no longer use it. Oh well….

"Changes in Pregnancy
- You are enjoying feeling better than you did last month.
- Because your placenta has taken over the production of the pregnancy hormones, you may feel a bit better in the second trimester.
- Some women will begin to have their bellies show at this point, though most women do not yet need maternity clothes
- Because of the extra blood volume your body needs during pregnancy, your heart will be beating more rapidly.

Emotional Mom
- You may be frustrated that you don't outwardly look pregnant to strangers on the street."


Extracted from
this site

Thursday, November 09, 2006

It's good, it's great - but we need time out too

“How do you feel about getting another baby?”, asked Emi, a Japanese girl who I first met during Waseda entrance exam last summer and now attending the Human Rights and Development class I’m enrolled in.

She asked that during lunch because I just wondered loudly in the class for everyone to ponder – why women in industrialized countries – despite their empowerment, despite being assured of ability to provide access to education, health services, immunization, safe water, bla, bla, bla – are not being encouraged by Human Rights group to have babies, where else women in the Third world – in spite of all their shortcomings – continue risking having more babies.

The children rights issue had everyone talking – from listening to Ali, an Afghan, sharing his thoughts on child soldiers, learning that our Cambodians classmates do not had any birth certificate until recently and that only 7 percent of babies born in Bangladesh are actually registered, pondering about the rights of parents wanting to have more than a child in China and to increase our awareness of children living in shadows everywhere. We were asked to read several chapters of Unicef’s report on “The State of the World’s Children 2006”, paying special attention to ‘excluded’ and ‘invisible’ children. Blame it on my raging hormones – but there were times while reading about misplaced children due to armed conflicts, girls forced into early marriages rendering them servants for the rest of their lives, illegally trafficked children involved in the underworld, homeless children and HIV-positive children facing torment – which touched me so greatly that made me shed a tear or two. It was an academic report – not a novel, and far from a movie – yet I was so moved by the plight of these children who have loss their childhood, who are most in need of care and protection, yet are often forgotten and excluded in many countries, societies and communities.

Coming back to Emi – “First, a baby is a gift from God, so of course I am happy to be the recipient of such a precious gift. Secondly, God willing, I am sure I am capable of providing all the basic necessities – health services, immunization, education, bla, bla, bla. More importantly, hubby and I will try to provide all the love and nurturing the baby needs too. It’s the world that he or she grows in that I have no actual control of – and that’s what scares me most.”

“But you have a child now, and you are studying for your Masters, are you sure it won’t be a problem for you?”, Piseth, a Cambodian friend who just got married in February to a 19 year old girl, questioned.

“Well, having a child could help strengthening my relationship with my husband. He helps with the household chores, he helps with the baby stuff that need to be done. It all adds up to make me appreciate and love him more. And I am well aware that not all husbands are willing to make the sacrifices that he does,” I answered quietly.

“You are one lucky lady, shining so brightly with happiness..Oh, I’m getting blinded sitting next to you” Emi teased.

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Yes, it’s true, having a child and raising him ourselves, spending almost 24/7 with him give us a test that not all parents are subjected to. My working friends send their children to nursery or day-care centres or leave them at home during office hours with their domestic helper. Hubby and I – we are almost stay-at-home-parents, although I am supposed to be a full time Masters student and he, the Imam of a mosque.

When Huzaifah gets his adik next spring insya Allah, his father and I will have to work more creatively on creating schedules to work around the two of them – multi tasking, organizing stuff for optimum effectiveness and so on. Right now, with Huzaifah being able to walk and climb dining table and oven yet still unable to appreciate that he should leave freshly folded clothes alone – it’s getting to be a bit difficult to remain sane at all times. Especially so when the father begin to lecture about keeping the house tidy when there’s an assignment due the next day.

That’s why I am thankful of Tuesdays and Thursdays (the days I have to go to school) – when I can take my breather away from my beloved son and hubby and messy house for a while, when I can stop thinking about the dirty sink or the smelly diaper or the thick pile of laundry waiting to be attended to. It’s not just about going to class and meeting friends and discussing world politics. It also means getting some private time for me to read novel in the train, to blog or bloghopping a little, to window shop sometimes, to get my monthly treat of tendon at Tenya, to sit in a park or just walk and indulge in people watching.

And I guess, hubby, like me, appreciates his Mondays and Wednesdays (when he goes teaching) for giving him some private time too…

Monday, October 30, 2006

Ramadhan that was and Eid... part 2

A little bit more that I should add:

- I think Faizly will make a fine husband to one lucky girl ine day insya Allah. For iftar on Khatam Quran day, he came to Asakusa to take care of a lot of things – preparing ayam masak merah and telur dadar mainly, and taking care of stuff otherwise including being Ujai’s babysitter every now and then. No thanks to me (who burnt the dish a little bit while Faizly was frying the telur dadar elsewhere) the ayam masak merah went a lil bit haywire – some said it looked like curry, others commented that it tasted like rending. But tengik or otherwise, it still tasted ok, alhamdulillah.

- The only time my family went out for iftar this year was when Encik Jasri, the current student counselor in Malaysian embassy came to take us out for a treat in Shagorika restaurant in Asakusa. Prior to that I had had my iftar outside a few times when I couldn’t be back home by Maghrib, but hubby had never had his iftar away from the mosque. Encik Jasri visited us a few days before Eid, to enable hubby’s friend, Ustaz Jalal from Jakim who was on one-month official duty in Japan, meeting us as well as to ask hubby for a favour. He asked if hubby could be the back-up Imam for Eidul Fitr prayer in the Malaysian embassy, which hubby had to decline since he was supposed to lead the Eid prayer in Asakusa. As for Eidul Adha, hubby would consult the ICOJ big shots and will get back to Encik Jasri later. Turned out that ICOJ actually managed to find a Pakistani imam to lead the Eidul Fitr prayer in Asakusa mosque – which we only learned about the night before Eid. Although a bit upset by the late revelation by ICOJ, hubby was relieved anyway, since the Eid prayer was done in accordance with the Hanafi custom rather than Shafie custom…

- Received one Nihonjin guest who wanted to pay Fitrah at 1 o’clock in the morning 2 days before Eid. She became a Muslim in Malaysia, when she was given the opportunity for a one-year overseas posting by her company. She is still in touch with her Malaysian adopted family who introduced her to Islam and even said that she wish she could live in Malaysia. But the exchange rate is not in her favour right now since she also has responsibility towards her parents. I asked her why didn’t she go and pay fitrah in another mosque not far from where she works, her answer was – the people there are not friendly, therefore she prefers not to go there. She said that the people there probed about a lot of things she prefers not to discuss, such as why is she not wearing the hijab, when is she going to pray five times a day at allotted times, bla, bla, bla…

- It wasn’t the first time I heard of such thing in Japan. Another Nihonjin friend of mine once remarked that the people at that particular mosque are rather “kibishi” (strict, rigid), thus she doesn’t feel comfortable going there. I was surprised to learn that compared to born Muslims, sometimes, Nihonjin muallaf could be harder on their fellow muallaf. I thought, being new Muslims themselves, they should be able to understand the trials and tribulations their fellow new Muslim has to undergo, and thus be more understanding and supporting instead of the other way round. A sad thing really.

- Oh, by the way – that 72 year old pakcik mentioned in the earlier post – he has yet to return to the mosque. One of the regulars for terawikh in our mosque said he believed the ojisan would never return – he just wanted some instant easy cash… Well, we never know, kan…

- Hubby got plenty of duit raya this year, alhamdulillah. Huzaifah got 1000 yen and RM10 so far. I didn’t get any. What I got instead was an eye infection upon waking up on the morning of Raya kedua. It was so painful and my right eye sight became so bad that I had to wait until around 4 o’clock before I was confident enough to cycle to a clinic nearby. Since then, I had gone for another check-up and my right eye seems to do okay now, alhamdulillah.

Tuesday, October 24, 2006

Ramadhan that was and Eid...

Some of my personal highlights of Ramadhan this year:

- Completed one month of fasting with no break for the first time ever in almost 20 years time…

- Learned from Rukayne, an ethnic Kurdish with French-Turkish dual citizenship, that in Hanafi mazhab, Muslims are not allowed to eat seafood other than certain fish. That means no shrimp, crab, squid, octopus, etc – and that really limits her choices whenever her husband and her opt to eat out in Japan.

- Rukayne kept insisting that I should further my study until the highest level possible. She had gotten her PhD in France and she would love to see more Muslim sisters achieve what she had achieved so far. “It’s a must sister. Those who could, should prove to others that we Muslim women are just as good, if not better than non Muslim women”. Since I was feeling a bit anxious about raising a child and a baby while pursuing a Masters degree, her words was very refreshing

- Received some extra words of encouragement from a friend who used to do her PhD in Bristol, since she had been in the same boat – pregnant-with-another-child-while studying. She did it, insya Allah I could too…

- Received a 72 year old Nihonjin guest one Maghrib, who confessed that he now believed in Allah as One True God. Spent a long time answering his queries as he compared Islam to Christianity with limited Nihongo vocabulary. He kept stressing that one of the reasons he found Islam appealing is because Muslims are supposed to help each other, to give charity… At the end of the discussion, he asked for 10,000 yen from the mosque to help him settle some financial matters. We did not dare to use the mosque’s money without some go ahead of ICOJ superiors, so we just gave him a small amount of our own money. We invited him for dinner too, to have what had had for iftar. He agreed – and he amazed us by eating whole date unpitted. He promised to come back a few days after Eid for formal conversion to Islam – so we’ll wait and see…

- Received good-old-traditional kad raya from Malaysia – one addressed to hubby from his elder sister and the other addressed to me from Siti Jue. Yatta!

- Meeting friends, exchanging thoughts and opinions as well as swapping stories on this and that during few occasions such as Semarak Ramadhan 1 and 2 organized by AMIR, Khatam Quran ceremony and 2 other public iftar hosted at the mosque.

- Collected my boshi tetcho – maternal and child health handbook from the Health Department of the Ward Office. But yet to go for any maternity check-up here in Japan. Still undecided on which hospital to go to… And still undecided whether it’s better to have a woman doctor who cannot speak English or a male doctor who could.

- Managed to cook nasi tomato for last day of Ramadhan as well as supervised hubby to make ayam masak merah. We ate that as well as some instant ketupat with serunding for Eid breakfast this morning, alhamdulillah.

Selamat hari raya to all.
May Allah bless you and may you have a wonderful Eid wherever you may be.

p/s: I gave the 10.40 a.m. class this morning a miss and met the sensei just before I went for my compulsory weekly meeting with my academic advisor to explain the reason for my (and other Malaysian friends') absence. His response - "Yeah, sure it's okay. Cultural diversity comes first..."

Tuesday, October 17, 2006

One week to go...

Insya Allah next week we will be celebrating Eid.
Alhamdulillah so far I have not ponteng puasa. There’s a lot of headaches and vomiting but since iftar is at around 5.00 p.m., I found no real reason not to fast. If I get to fast for the whole month this year, it’ll be a first for me since I hit puberty, and that’s kind of cool.

But cool or otherwise, I haven’t khatam the Quran. I initially hoped that I could khatam twice this year seeing that I have no off-day from reading the Quran, but I guess I’m just too lazy kot… I definitely have been spending too many mornings under the blanket on the futon until near midday…

The Malaysian group of students who came for semarak Ramadhan on the 1st of Ramadhan had another semarak Ramadhan program last weeked. It was good to be around Malaysians, speaking Malay, eating iftar and sahur together, chatting and laughing. It was especially great being able to perform terawih in a group while Ujai was being looked after by some other girls. After endless nights of praying alone on the ladies floor, I must say that it definitely felt good to be in a jemaah.

This past month, there were a few occasions on which we had iftar with others. Rafi, a Pakistani working in an Indian restaurant in Ueno offered to cook on Fridays at the mosque. His cousin, Islam, too has his day off on Fridays, so he joined us having iftar at the mosque too.

Ella, an Indonesian married to Abdullah, a Japanese-American lives about 10 minutes away and just delievered a beautiful baby boy named Muhammad Raihan. They held a small kenduri kesyukuran during iftar the second Sunday in Ramadhan at the mosque. Then, last Sunday, as consolation for preventing hubby and I from attending an iftar invitation in another mosque, one of the regular attenders of the mosque called up his friend and cooked up some beriyani for iftar at our mosque. So there – those were the days when hubby get to have his iftar with something different from my usual iftar stuff. Usual means mostly porridges – bubur lambuk, bubur bilis, bubur udang, bubur sosej, bla bla bla. On one occasion when he requested to have nasi lemak for iftar, I prepared the nasi lemak, but he cooked the sambal, since I could not stand the smell of simmering oil.

Anyway, with the coming of Syawal, soon we will be seeing an end of the porridge time... At least I hope so...

Thursday, October 12, 2006

Hisashiburi...

I know I have no real excuse for not writing... but hope this quick message will suffice for now :

I have registered as a first year student in Waseda GSAPS.I am going to submit my application for Mombusho scholarship extension soon. I can transfer 5 courses, so that means I have 6 more courses to finish, at least. I initially thought of finishing all 6 courses this semester - 4 in fall and 2 in winter, but now I am reconsidering this notion because of health reasons...

I feel happy and blessed because for the first time, I get to pray terawih led by my own husband who recites more than one juzuk of Quran each night in order to khatam before Ramadhan ends.

I miss praying terawih among a lot of people at the masjid though. We normally get just 3-5 guys coming and no ladies. Which mean Huzaifah and I conquer the whole ladies' floor almost every night except for the first night when a group of Malaysian students had their 'semarak Ramadhan' program here.

Huzaifah is not feeling all that well now - probably due to the changing weather.

I am not feeling all that well now too - due to a lot of reasons.

The main reason is because Huzaifah is getting an adik, insya Allah.

Please make doa for me that everything will be well...

I am scared, excited, stressed, worried but I think we'll manage somehow... Hubby has been lending loads of strength - cooking, massaging, taking care of household chores... Things are sure different now, and they are going to get a lot more different come April insya Allah, but we'll take a day at a time...

Saturday, August 26, 2006

Back home - for a while...

I’m in Malaysia now, just arrived last night with Huzaifah and got a really warm welcome from Ayah, Mak and Lia, our helper – who rushed to hug and kiss a surprised Huzaifah. He was okay in the flight – not quite cranky like he was on his first journey by flight last March. I guess, it might have something to do with the fact that he enjoyed the spacious and automatic seat in the business class. No, I don’t normally travel on business class unless on official trip. But this time around, I bought the business class ticket because the economy class was full, or so I was told by the travel agent I dealt with. Huzaifah and I took a walk down the aisle all the way to the back of the flight, and found out that in fact there were many vacant seats in economy class… but I am not complaining because traveling alone with a child who has just learned to walk but not yet understand how to stand still for a while could be quite a harrowing experience. I know I definitely received a lot of glances from others while trying to fill in the embarkation forms for both Huzaifah and I right before we went through the immigration in Narita airport. Alhamdulillah, Daud and Sarina went back on the same day with me (but they boarded an earlier flight), so they could give me a lift to the airport, otherwise, managing both the luggage and Huzaifah could prove to be yet another nightmare… Not to mention that the side handle of the big bag was broken while hubby took the bag downstairs…

There’s a long list of things to do – getting replacement for MyKad, driving licence, getting Huzaifah’s one-year-old injection, making new passport, getting new visa for the new passport, paying debts and the usual stuff of meeting and visiting family and friends. Actually neither hubby nor I planned to return this summer, but hubby had to attend to some stuff pertaining to his official appointment as a government servant, so Mak and Ayah persuaded me to take Ujai back home too, to celebrate his first birthday here in Malaysia, insya Allah. Not that we are planning a big celebration, but at least they get to be with him on his first birthday. Lia, our helper too, has miss him a lot. Huzaifah has just been back for less than a day, but already he’s been pampered like a prince. Since the house is not baby-proofed, Huzaifah is more likely to be seen on either Mak’s or Lia’s arm, rather than being allowed to wander and roam all over the house. Mak made beef soup especially for him today, even fed him some Ferraro Rocher chocolate when she saw that he was not that keen to finish the bottled baby meal I brought with me. The slightest ‘eek’ or ‘uuh’ uttered in raised voice by Huzaifah was quickly attended to, even when it was, well, nothing.

Huzaifah is definitely going to be subjected to a reorientation of living with just his dad and I when we go back. Oh, his dad is still in Tokyo right now. Will only be back in Malaysia on 5th September and we will go back together on 20th September, insya Allah. I know – just four days before Ramadhan… Zannen… But I don’t have much choice since the registration for new students in Waseda had been scheduled on 21st September.

I’ll try to update if I can manage to while I am in Malaysia, since the internet seems to be working better this time around than when I came back last year. Till then, take care and have a nice day.

Sunday, August 20, 2006

Not some blog-wash after all...

* A belated entry which had been sitting in my draft bin for quite some time...

I chuckled when I first heard the news from hubby. I just came back from the hospital, while hubby stayed home that day, not visiting Huzaifah because he himself was not feeling well.

“Ofis lama Haida kena pantau blog-blog pulak…”

Eh, eh, pulak dah…

Hubby was referring to a nwspaper article stating that the Malaysian Cabinet had directed KTAK (as in K.T.A.K, not ktak, or even katak - it used to be KTKM, which were often confused with KTMB, but when the Water related functions were introduced, became KTAK. There had been some efforts to change the abbreviation to KKTA or KKAT, but the request had been turned down by the Cabinet...) to monitor blogs. The Communications department of the Ministry functions according to the provisions of Communications and Multimedia Acts 1998. And Section 3 (3) of CMA 1998 expressly stated that "Nothing in this Act shall be construed as permitting the censorship of the Internet.” . So, why should blogs be monitored when there should be no censorship of the Internet... But I guess, this will be one of the tasks that would go under “lain-lain tugasan seperti yang diarahkan dari semasa ke semasa”…

The government is worried about the spread of rumours and lies by way of blog, or so I was told. If found guilty, identified blog owners would be charged, perhaps under Sedition Act, Printing Presses and Publications Act or even Penal Code. But not CMA – so why ask the Ministry to undertake an effort that the Ministry could not act upon. Hmm, maybe the stakeholders want the Ministry to cooperate and liaise with other government agencies. The police, perhaps, or the Internal Ministry, or even the Bahagian Keselamatan of the Prime Minister’s Department. I chuckled at the thought of liaising with the police force though, remembering how long it took to convince all telecommunications service providers to cooperate with the police in order to increase the efficiency of the emergency call system. Chances are, it would probably be better for the Special Branch officers to continue their own monitoring of identified possible hazardous blogs, rather than relying on the Ministry.

It is funny to think that the call to monitor blogs came not long after a national newspaper loudly pronounced blogs as hokum bunkum (with the cover screaming BLOG-WASH). On one hand the mainstream media are saying that blogs are just some craps not to be minded, yet on the other hand, the government think highly enough of blogs to be capable of influencing the people’s thoughts and opinions. Ah-hah.

But when the task of monitoring blog was awarded to the Ministry, I wonder who will undertake the actual task anyway when the Ministry has almost always been understaffed and overworked for the past couple of years. Probably someone from the Content division. Or maybe someone from the Regulatory division. I also wonder, why not delegate the task to Communications and Multimedia Commission - they certainly have more people there than the Ministry... But then again, they too are supposed to function in accord with CMA 1998, which brought us to my above-mentioned point...

I wonder what will be the Key Performance Index (KPI) for this task – perhaps, how many blogs should be monitored a year, or how many blogs had been taken action against (when necessary), or that blogs would be classified so that some would not be touched at all (the kind that rants on and on about on and on, but nothing of great importance so as to pose a threat to national security) but only a handful which fulfill certain criteria would be subject to close scrutiny.

At the end of the day, I pretty much envy the person who would be in charge of monitoring blogs. Imagine, spending all day long blog-hopping, possibly becoming addicted to some, and one can honestly say that he or she is just carrying out the assigned official duty…

Thursday, August 17, 2006

Another new Muslimah

We received the phone call when we were in the middle of attending to our child when he was terribly sick.

It was a Yemeni guy, asking us about necessary documents for someone to convert to Islam, as well as trying to make an appointment for a new Muslim conversion. I told him that he could bring his friend for conversion anytime but right then the timing was a bit off because we had a sick child to attend to. Hubby asked him to come to the mosque the next day.

At that time it did not occurred to us that Huzaifah would be hospitalized. Thus, when he was, hubby asked me to call up more senior members of ICOJ to attend to the Yemeni guy’s request since we might be held up at the hospital. We called, but it seemed that nobody was quite free that night to cater to the Yemeni’s guy request. Hubby decided to leave the hospital earlier than me, to prepare all the necessary documents and gifts (Islamic books for beginners) in case the guy show up with his friend - “Orang nak masuk Islam tak boleh lengah-lengahkan, nanti kalau jadi apa-apa, kita nak jawab apa…”

I left the hospital at 8.00 pm, after Huzaifah had gone to sleep. (Alhamdulillah, he always napped right before I had to leave the hospital, making it easier for me to leave quietly without seeing him crying, protesting my going away) I noticed the two extra pair of shoes on the shoe rack, but I found hubby alone in the office. We went upstairs together, and only then hubby noticed that there were two people waiting in the mosque after all – the Yemeni guy and his Nihonjin girlfriend.

Turned out that they hadn’t been waiting long, just that they didn’t know where to look for the Imam. They first introduced themselves in English, but soon after that hubby began conversing in Arabic with Hadi, the Yemeni guy while I chatted in my limited Nihongo with Sonoko-san. I apologized for our late welcome since I myself had just returned from the hospital. (It had been a long day for me – what with having to register Huzaifah for child welfare in Taito-ku ward office in Ueno first, and they requested some documents I’ve never heard of before, making it a lot more complicated than it was back in Gyotoku… In fact, that day, I reached the hospital later than Huzaifah’s other visitors – Kamarol and Mizan and his family, who were kind enough to visit all the way from Chiba…)

Things went far smoother this time compared to our first conversion experience. Hubby had prepared his script beforehand, spoke in Arabic and Hadi acted as translator for Sonoko-san. I was impressed with Hadi’s Nihongo, because he was so fluent and there was little trace of Arabic slang if at all in his Nihongo. I later found out that he’s a teacher in Yemen who works part time as tourist guide for Japanese and that was how he first met Sonoko-san. He was in Japan on Sonoko’s family invitation, to visit Sonoko-san’s father who has been hospitalized for some old age-related problems.

Actually, I was not only impressed, I was also envious. To date, while I may not be fluent, most Nihonjin I’ve talked to, often remarked that my Nihongo is rather good for someone who has been here for less than a year. However, since Nihonjin are known to be extra polite sometimes, I’m unsure whether they were honestly stating a fact or just being polite. Since our move to this mosque, my priority in learning Nihongo has shifted from trying to understand Japanese dorama, to at least be able to explain basic stuff in Islam to others who are interested to learn. The truth is, I can understand TV programs in Nihongo up to some extend now, but my spoken Nihongo is still too poor for me to be able to explain even Rukun Iman or Rukun Islam… I could answer simple questions like what time is Jumu’ah prayer held in the mosque, or do we have Quran lesson in the mosque, but whenever we get some phone calls asking fiqh related stuff, I always had to direct the callers to call others. It’s nothing to be ashamed of, and that was exactly we had been advised to do by ICOJ committee members, but I still feel that I should be able to do better than that…

Anyway, back to the conversion…

Sonoko-san’s interest in Islam was first generated as she toured in a few Muslim countries – Yemen, Syria, Iran, Malaysia, Indonesia, to name a few. She too has taken an interest in learning Arabic, and in turn was further encouraged to learn more about Islam by her Indonesian Arabic language instructor. Understandably, her decision to convert was not well received by her family, but the presence of her Yemeni boyfriend in person had helped her to get that extra boost of confidence to take the leap of faith.

Just before converting, hubby asked her some questions relating to her interest in Islam, and her understanding of Islam so far, as well as whether she has come to Islam out of her own free will. It seemed that she had found a good coach in Hadi, who has helped in explaining and answering her questions before this. She too had ‘rehearsed’ uttering the syahadah, so when the time came for her to declare herself as a Muslim, it went rather well, as her Arabic is rather jouzu for a Nihonjin. She chose an old Arabic name, Lamees, as her Muslim name (as opposed to Fatimah, Aisyah and Mariam, popular names for Muslim Nihonjin), even saying “Ismi Lamees” (”My name is Lamees” in Arabic) when hubby asked her what is her Muslim name. No, it is not compulsory to have a new Muslim name when one becomes a Muslim, (Rasulullah’s companions did not change their name after their conversion just for the sake of changing their name – Umar was Umar before he became a Muslim and remained Umar after he converted) it is just a custom to do so, but I thought Lamees is a beautiful name which suits her nicely.

Hubby then proceeded to explain to her the basic tenets – Rukun Islam and Rukun Iman – in Arabic which was translated to Nihongo by Hadi. Then, after she was done with filling in her details, with Hadi and I acting as witnesses for her conversion, hubby handed a copy of the new Muslim certificate over to her. She held it with a wondrous look for a moment just before I requested for permission to take a photo of her showing off the certificate. She looked happy posing for the camera. Hadi even clapped his hand as he muttered omedetou gozaimas (congratulations) to her.

I then promised to call up another Muslim Nihonjin who might be able to answer her questions better and have better knowledge than me regarding Islamic classes conducted in Nihongo held in other Islamic center and mosques. She would like that, because she really want to learn more about Islam. It’s a new start, it’s a new life and she looks forward to learning being a good Muslim.

She knows that it’s not going to be easy. It is never easy for many. Most Muslim Nihonjin take some time adjusting to their new faith – to stop their drinking habit, change their eating habits, start praying… She was aware that it’s going to be a tough challenge, and it may take her five, six, or even ten years before she could be a fully practicing Muslim I encouraged her to take her time. What is important first and foremost is her belief in Allah AlMighty. Everything else will fall in its places accordingly, insya Allah.

I was surprised to learn that she lived in Shibuya, not too far from a famous mosque. I wondered loudly why they did not go there instead of coming all the way to Asakusa for her conversion. Hadi explained briefly that when he called them up, stating his interest in bringing a friend for a conversion ceremony, the mosque’s response had been rather cool. Yet, when he called us, both hubby and I welcomed him warmly, sounding eager to assist in any way we could. Thus, they chose to come to us.

Shocked and sad – my expression must had conveyed what I felt right then to them because she immediately reassured me that it’s okay, it doesn’t matter where she does it right, because she is already a Muslim now.

She is getting married to Hadi soon, and insya Allah I will share more about their wedding ceremony because they had chose to get married in Asakusa too.

Tuesday, August 15, 2006

That one Halal Shop in Shin Okubo...

Sorry for not writing for so long - I was held up by a lot of stuff, including but not limiting to having to be extra attentive to my son who after being discharged from the hospital seemed to be need double assurance at all time that he's never far from his parents, and on-and-pff internet... We've never subscribe to any internet service provider thus are strictly relying on unpredictable access to some unsecured wireless networks nearby...

Anyway, if you are a Muslim staying in Tokyo or its neighboring area, and like me, is a fan of a particular Halal shop in Shin Okubo due to its low price… I’m pleased to let you know that we can now place our order to them through phone, fax or e-mail. An extra takkyubin (courier) charge will be added in accordance with our order’s total weight. The other day, my order was 31kg and we had to pay 900 yen for courier. It definitely beat carrying all those stuff ourselves since the courier guy dropped everything right in front of our footstep – on the fifth floor (with no elevator), no less.

The contact details are as below:
Nasco Telecom
Phone: 03 5337 1477
Fax: 03 5337 2183
Email: nasco786@snow.ocn.ne.jp

Payment should be made to their Yubin (postal) account no: 10160-50050221

And no, I’m not getting paid for this. Consider this as a public service announcement of some sort.

Wednesday, August 02, 2006

Not so good news

I was hoping to blog about last Saturday’s ladies night right after I was done with submitting the last term paper I had to do.

But that was not to be.

Because a day after I was done with submitting that particular term paper, my dear son was terribly sick. So sick that now he is spending the night in University of Japan Hospital (Nihon Daigaku Byoin) in Ochanomizu, Chiyoda-ku.

Huzaifah had running nose beginning late last night. Then his temperature slowly increased. This morning I gave him some left-over medicine prescribed for fever and cold which we got in spring. His father recited the ayat syifa’ for him, fed him some air zam-zam, some dates and some water mixed with honey. He refused to drink or eat anything. We fed the medicine and the small amount of zam-zam water in small feeds using a 3ml syringe.

Then he started wheezing.

I knew it was an asthma attack. Both hubby and I have asthma. But we both made the mistake of assuming that it was a mild asthma attack. Because we never had to go to a child clinic since we moved to Tokyo, we did not know where exactly to go to consult a paediatrician.

First, we went to Asakusa Hospital which is right behind our house. No, they don’t handle paediatric cases. Rather , they specialised in elderly care - no surprise there considering Asakusa is filled with aging society. The girl behind the receptionist counter made a photocopy of a map, and directed me to the nearest child clinic.

The nearest clinic was not so near after all, and we managed to get lost before we met a kind Nihonjin who directed us to the clinic herself. Only to find that the clinic was closed, as the doctor was away for a health inspection in a primary school somewhere. We were advised to go to another clinic in Imado. Only that we had to wait until after 2.30 pm because by then the clinic was already closed for lunch break.

Went back home, for lunch and Zohor. Then went to the clinic in Imado.

The doctor looked grave as he advised us to go to a bigger hospital since his clinic did not provide any treatment for asthma. Apart from that advice and some kiddy stuff for Huzaifah (no sweets, but a balloon, a sheet of stickers with a matching postcard to be used with the stickers), we got yet another photocopied map, directing us to Senjoji Hospital, at the back of the famous Senjoji Temple.

On the way to the big hospital, I suddenly realized that, after paying the fee at the clinic earlier (I haven’t register Huzaifah for child allowance in Taito-ku yet , so not only we haven’t receive any Child Allowance but we also have yet to receive the Medical discount card which entitled us to pay minimal fee for his medical services), I didn’t have that much cash so we went to the bank first to withdraw some money.

By the time we reached the Sensoji Hospital, it was nearly 4 p.m. I was so relieved that the doctor who attended to Huzaifah could speak English well. But my relief quickly turned to horror as the doctor told us that Huzaifah had to be hospitalized because he was going through a severe attack of bronchitis asthma. And guessing from the symptoms, he told us that he suspected Huzaifah might even be suffering from pneumonia.

He could not be hospitalized in Sensoji Hospital because there’s no such facility there. The kind Dr. Hiroshima called up a few other hospitals with ward facilities before he finally told us that there’s a vacancy at Nihon Daigaku Hospital, and that we would all go there in an ambulance. The Sensoji Hospital has no ambulance facility too, so he had to get one from Tokyo Ambulance service.

While waiting for the ambulance, Huzaifah was given some therapy first – a combination of inhaling nebulizer, IV drip infusion and steroid injection to expand his chest and made breathing easier. Since the oxygen rate in his blood was less than 96%, he also had to wear an oxygen mask, which I held close to his mouth and nose since he kept pushing the mask away when the nurse held it.

It was heartbreaking when the doctor told us that we could not stay with Huzaifah in the hospital since all visitors, including parents, have to leave the hospital by 8.00p.m. It was even more heartbreaking to hear Huzaifah wailing as the doctor put on the drip. And it had to be done twice because the first time Huzaifah struggled so violently that after the drip needle was inserted, it later became mixed with his blood since the needle was not firmly inserted or something to that effect.

The doctor boarded the ambulance too, accompanying us to Nihon Daigaku Hospital, checking Huzaifah’s heaving chest every few minutes, keep glancing at the oxygen level and pulse rate monitor throughout the 15 - 20 minute journey. The journey was shorter than normal trip by car because in addition to siren, ambulances in Tokyo are equipped with loud speakers, enabling the driver to politely but firmly requesting cars to move aside as they pass and to thank the drivers for their kind cooperation. We reached Ochanomizu at around 5.30 p.m.

As soon as we arrived at the hospital, a group of doctors immediately hovered around him. One doctor acted as the coordinator as the team was briefed by Dr Hiroshima. Right after that, I was interviewed in Nihongo – someone seeking explanation why we were late in getting medical treatment, then there was someone asking the basic history of Huzaifah so far – past record of immunization, where was he delivered, was it a normal delivery, his weight at birth, my health when I was pregnant, including whether I was hospitalized during pregnancy. I told them about my hyperemesis gravidarum episodes, and one doctor quickly ran to find the translation in Nihongo because no one among them knew what hyperemesis gravidarum is in Nihongo. Not surprising since we were at the paediatric unit, not O&G.

The doctor who was acting as the coordinator turned out to be the only one among them who’s good in English. He then explained every step of the therapy they suggested for Huzaifah. From the symptoms – high fever, coughing, wheezing - they tried to exhaust all possibilities – viral infection, bacterial infection, pneumonia - which would be ruled out by different tests.

If only listening to Huzaifah wailing was heartbreaking, it was even more heartbreaking to see Huzaifah struggling as he was subjected to a blood test. I leaned on hubby, usurping some extra strength from his presence as we saw Huzaifah being subjected to other tests – the x-ray, the extraction of some hanamizu (hingus) as they tried to check for and culture the virus. The doctor informed us that if Huzaifah’s condition worsen during the night, he would be given oxygen therapy using a tent, which they set up at the next bed, as a precaution. A nurse even showed a sample of a special cloth that Huzaifah might had to wear for safety purpose so as to ensure that he won’t fall from the bed where the tent for oxygen therapy was set up.

We prayed solat hormat waktu for both Asar and Maghrib. But we did not stop praying. Hubby continued reciting ayat syifa’, while I held Huzaifah in my lap after I was given the go-ahead by the doctor. The oxygen rate in his blood gradually improved from 96% to 100% as his pulse rate decreased from over 160 to 130 a minute and the wheezing stopped after he got his second 0.2 cc dose of nebulizer.

Sometime around 7.30 p.m, all the doctors assembled near our bed, this time with a new face I hadn’t seen before. Huzaifah had already went to sleep, and was not disturbed even when the new doctor, who turned out to be the Chief Medical Examiner, examined him.He consulted his notes before telling the English speaking doctor to tell me that Huzaifah was out of danger, that he would turn out ok, but since he had just went through a severe attack, they would like to keep him under observation for maybe up to five days, to ensure that there’s no repeat of such attack. I thanked the Chief Doctor, and thanked all the doctors for their efforts. Huzaifah got a viral infection which led to his asthma attack - not bacterial infection since his inflamation was not serious, and no pneumonia as proven by his x-ray.

I could not help feeling impressed with their level of efficiency – from the doctor to the nurses, all of them worked hard as a team to ensure Huzaifah’s quick recovery and comfort. The nurse who changed his cloth – I was glad that I brought a pair of change in his bag – even checked on his daily routine – what time he normally goes to sleep and wake up, how many times he feed on milk daily and how much per feeding, how many times he eat a day and what does he usually, how many teeth does he has so far (she checked them personally despite Huzaifah’s feeble attempt of restraint), what brand of milk does he drink, down to do I normally feed him when he’s sleeping.

Huzaifah was still sleeping soundly when his father and I left the hospital with heavy hearts. I pray that he will get well soon. I hope he will be discharged even earlier than the predicted 5 days. I wish he didn’t have to be left alone at the hospital, but I had no choice. I can only pray that he would be okay and that if needs arise, he would be comforted by the nurses – even if he had to listen to Nihongo lullabies rather than my usual recitation of selawat.

I know there’re wars going on right now everywhere. I know that I am going through nothing compared to what they are facing right now. But I hope that you, my friends, in between making do’a for our Muslim brothers and sisters who are affected by the ongoing wars, would be kind enough to insert a small prayer for my son’s health and quick recovery.

Tuesday, July 25, 2006

Ladies Night Out - Sumidagawa Hanabi Taikai

Calling Muslim ladies in Tokyo and its surrounding areas (including but not limiting to Saitama, Chiba, Kanagawa prefectures…)

We are having a Ladies Night in Dar Al Arqam Mosque in Asakusa on the night of Sumidagawa Hanabi Taikai. Yes, I’m referring to the one of the largest firework displays in Tokyo. Yes, the major one which is shown on TV.

It’s happening this Saturday, 29th July. The fireworks start at 7.30 pm, therefore you might want to come before 7.00 p.m. so that we can pray Maghrib together. The ladies will view the hanabi from the rooftop with the kids, while the husbands/male colleagues may view it from the 3rd floor (the mosque floor) or they can go for a walk along Sumida River. Sakurabashi, the bridge where the platform for the fireworks will be erected, is only about 10-15 minutes walk from the mosque.

It’ll be fun, meeting and mixing with Muslims from different backgrounds. It’s a pot-luck thingy, so just bring a plate of food to share. It doesn’t matter if you just bring some 100-yen cookies.

Just come.

How to reach the mosque? Well, take the Ginza line to Asakusa. Then, take the Matsuya/Tobu station exit in Asakusa eki. There’s a bus going to Minami Senju stopping right in front of Matsuya (the depato, not the food stall). Take this bus (fare is 200 yen) and you can either stop at Imado or Higashi Asakusa. If you stop at Imado, turn right as you exit the bus and you’ll see the yellow signboard of Dar Al Arqam Mosque on your left in about 2 minutes time. If you stop at Higashi Asakusa, turn left as you exit the bus and you’ll see the signboard of the mosque after 1.5 minute.

We’ll pray Maghrib at the 2nd Floor and gather at the rooftop after that. Don’t forget to bring your shoes/slippers to the rooftop. I’m thinking of putting on my newly bought yukata that night. Any guests wishing to do the same are most welcomed. Don’t worry too much about what to wear though.

Just come.

Friday, July 21, 2006

Introducing Adan Photo

An old high school classmate is now a wedding photographer and has asked us, his old schoolmates, to spread the word around. So, here I am, doing my part to introduce his photo blog at http://adanphoto.fotopages.com/ and his business homepage at http://www.adan.biz

Some of the shots look pretty amazing. And I've heard that the price is affordable too - RM699 for videography can be considered a bargain judging from the pictures alone...

He might not be Kid Chan or Ikram Ismail (as yet), but his work seems promising. Really.

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